There were times when we all thought that being modest is good and staying in the shadow is what makes us look like that. These times have ended and not is a time when knowing your self-worthiness is crucial to achieving success.
Today, on the other hand, while some people are still trying to balance between having self-confidence and being modest, others are so self-confident that their values are not enough justified and they have overestimated their self-worthiness.
Knowing your worth means a few things. These things include also the fact that you might be the best in a particular situation, but not the best in general. Once you understand this, your self -confidence should be lowered on a relatively normal level in case you have overestimated yourself, and bring you to a point where you’ll understand that having self – confidence also allows you to balance between being modest and being worthy. Here is how to do it:
Know your strengths
No matter what the others speak about you, have your own judgment about yourself. Everybody has qualities, strengths, and worth. Focus on those parts of you and learn how to emphasize them. Understand that there is no point in being shy about your talents, good look, good character, success, etc. Once you know your strengths you might think you are the best. But you are only unique, and that is great because being the best brings a lot of responsibilities.
Know your weaknesses
Once you learned your strengths, you should take a look at the weakneses. This is not about bringing you down to Earth but for you to start working on them and become a better person. In this way, by striving towards something better, not only that you become a better person, but you also understand what I previously wrote, that you are not the best, but unique, and also in this way you’ll understand that constant work on your strenghts is required too.
Know what you want
Being self confident withouth having a direction is an illusion. You should first know what you want, to know where are you heading. If you want to become a succesfull enterpreneur, go ahead, but make sure that it is not only a dream without resources. This means that even if you know what you want, you might need talent, or money, or time etc. But, stil, knowing what you want is a good start of any race you’ll have in your life.
Learn who you are
Your strenghts and weaknesses, and where you are heading are part of you. They are crucial for you to know who you are. There are two ways to explore yourself further: by introspection and observation. Introspection you can do when you are alone, by qyestining yourself things you want to know about know. Observation you can do when you act in another’s people company. This is more difficult, but also more important since you need your self-confidence in front of the others. Observe what you do, and bring conclusions what you should change. And rememeber, all conclusions from introspection and observing you should keep for yourself. No one needs to know your full profile.
Balance when selling yourself
In the end, you’ll need to apply everything from the previous stages and bring yourself to a certain level where your self-confidence is just right. Self-confidence means selling yourself (without any money of course :)). For example: If you are a talented writer, point that out in a way it is not intrusive. If you are a successful enterpreneur, be that but “don’t write it on your forehead”. In the end, you must remember, marketing is important, but quality is what bring people back to a product.
Be the best version of you, and strive for uniqueness. That is the always the right way!